Self-Love Strategies for Transformation

Self-Love Comes First.
I must fill my own cup first, ensuring my heart overflows with love–not depletion or resentment. Only then can I interact with myself and others from a place of love rather than lack.

Spouse-Love Comes Second.
A strong, balanced relationship requires intentional care. Loving my partner properly strengthens the foundation of our connection, allowing it to stand the test of time in a healthy, supportive way.

Child-Love Comes Third.
When self-love and spouse-love come first, children are surrounded by two layers of healthy, unconditional love. This creates the best possible environment for them to feel emotionally and physically safe, setting them up for long-term well-being.

Family-Love Comes Forth

After loving my nuclear family, then I have time and energy to pour love on my extended family. Those important connections also support the health of my nuclear family.

Community-Love Comes Last.
Only after prioritizing the core relationships in my life can I extend my love outward to my local community and the world.

“It is said that famous men are usually the product of an unhappy childhood.” 

~ Winston Churchill

I wholeheartedly agree with Mr. Churchill. High-performing men have ambitious souls. They seek challenging lives with opportunities for extreme levels of accomplishment. An unhappy childhood creates an opportunity to learn how to navigate the valley of darkness successfully in order to propel oneself to fantastical heights. They learn to surf the waves of life by running into profound challenges head on to become the best version of themselves. 

This lesson applies to everyone. My soul planned a difficult childhood, so I could gain tremendous wisdom. The depth of the wound determines the height of the wisdom. They are directly correlated. Younger souls take on easier lessons, while older, more advanced souls take on more painful lessons to have opportunities for expansion. 

Our souls plan our lives based on our wounds for self-improvement opportunities. Once you learn how to surf the smaller waves, bigger waves will come to challenge you, growing bigger and bigger as you mature. I go through so many hills and valleys daily that I never could before, because I learned how to surf the waves of life with this wisdom I am sharing here.

Our souls are energy bodies, so the laws of physics explains why hills and valleys are necessary in life for our personal ascension. On the way into the valley, the soul picks up momentum, speed and inertia to climb the next mountain of wisdom. The following physics experiment shows how this is true.

Additionally, the fluctuation between lower vibrating emotions (energy), like fear and shame, and higher vibrating emotions, like love and enlightenment, is what breeds life into energy. Without movement, energy dies. So, learning to move through your emotions is essential to igniting life-force energy in your soul. 

Our souls project our emotions through our hearts. That is why Dr. Joe Dispenza says the electromagnetic field around our hearts is 5,000 times stronger than our brains. Additionally, the nervous system in our hearts is far more complex than our brains. Hearts send a lot more signals to the brain than the other way around. Rumi says, “Follow your heart, it knows the way.”

So, our souls project how we feel about ourselves through our hearts onto other souls, so we can understand and see ourselves–the good, the bad, the beautiful and the ugly. Earth is a school for us to improve ourselves, so constant feedback is necessary. 

Our physiology supports this process. We have mirror neurons to help us learn from others to improve ourselves. When a soul projects itself, it vibrates at a certain frequency as an energy body. Other souls vibrating at the same frequency will pull your attention, so you can see yourself. When you call someone selfish, that is your soul showing you selfishness inside of you, as you are only in control of you. When you call someone beautiful, that is your soul showing you the beauty inside of you. This is why you only need feedback about you to improve. It is an insular process.

Here is a physics experiment to show you how this works. When energy vibrates at the same frequency, it moves other objects who also vibrate at that frequency drawing your attention and resonance. That is why people say we all live in our own reality. What draws my attention is different from what draws yours. This amazingly complex process is how each of us can learn different lessons in the same environment that are specific to our individual needs for growth. 

Why does self-love create heaven on earth and why is change an inside job, you may be asking yourself. That is because the universe is a mirror, creating your personal experience of the world based on the wounds and wisdom in your soul. Reality is a projection of how you feel about yourself. Here is an example.

When I was talking to Andrew Tate’s soul when he was in solitary confinement, I had the following conversation with him. I said, “So, Andrew, you know that your external reality is a projection of your internal reality and how you feel about yourself, right?” His soul said, “yeahhh.” So, I said, “From that perspective, why are you in solitary confinement?” 

This picture is how internally isolated I felt, which might help you understand how much Andrew rejected himself internally as well. The reason my soul was chosen to help him heal is I felt as internally isolated and rejected as he did. Our souls resonated in our depths of self-rejection. I sat in my recliner in the dark in my garage talking to him a few hours per day for several months. I understood him, because I understood myself. We can only meet people as deeply as we meet ourselves. 

Since our external reality is a projection of our internal, emotional reality, you must transform more wounds into personal wisdom to resonate with more positive experiences in life. The more you love yourself, the more you will attract loving experiences into your life, creating more fulfilling and respectful relationships and life experiences–Heaven on Earth.

Now, for the physics experiment. Energy naturally aligns with the highest vibrating frequency. The higher my soul vibrates with self-love, the more influential my soul becomes. The more wisdom I unveil inside of my soul, the more impactful my soul becomes as wisdom vibrates higher than a wound. So, when we all love ourselves more, we will stop projecting self-hate onto the world in terms of violence and abuse, creating healthier societies, relationships and families–Heaven on Earth. You can choose Heaven on Earth or you can choose Hell on Earth. It’s up to you.